It isn’t easy to take the decision to go back to school when you’re a fully-grown adult with responsibilities. When you’re a teenager you can go off to university without worrying about anyone else, but it isn’t so easy when you have a family of your own to think of. Going to university as a mature student can be costly and time-consuming and without the support of your family it is going to be even more challenging to complete your degree. You therefore need to make clear your reasons for wanting to study so that hopefully you will be able to get the support you require.
It doesn’t matter whether you’re taking a distance learning course or whether you actually have to turn up for classes; you still need to read, take notes and write essays. This takes up time which you probably don’t have. Without your family’s support everything will carry on as normal and you will continue to be taken for granted, so that instead of having your family help with the washing up and cleaning the house you will end up doing it all. You need to put your foot down and make it clear how important studying for a higher level qualification is to you, as otherwise you won’t be able to achieve all that you want to.
Deciding to become a mature student takes quite a lot of determination and you definitely have to be self-motivated to have success. The trouble is that when you’re not particularly confident about your abilities and start to wonder whether all the effort will be worth it in the end it can be easier to give up than to stick with it. This is particularly true if you don’t have the support of your family, as sometimes you simply need reassurance from those closest to you that you’re doing well and that they can cope when you have to study.
This is important because you need to set aside time for your studies, which may ultimately mean you have to give up some of the time that would have been spent with your family. Your family has to understand that you are studying to better yourself and because you want to increase your career opportunities, which could benefit them as much as you.
It is possible to return to education without your family’s support, but it is a lot easier if your family are understanding of your reasons for wanting to learn and are prepared to be flexible. You may not be able to control what your family thinks, but you can emphasise how important studying is to you.