Mentoring Fostering Children
With the 18th birthday looming and independence being the result, mentoring for foster children provide a positive connection for children that will function without family. With mentoring, pseudo, family can develop. Mentoring may not replace family but provide a source for advice.
Example of Reason
In the Tri-City Herald today, a couple has arrived in the Tri-Cities to get away from their drug-infested lifestyle. The man and woman both came from families with drug problems, but have been clean for years. They have a three-month-old baby. They left Minneapolis and went to Medford Oregon but left due to robbery. He has computer skills and can work. In Seattle, her blindness made it impossible to get around the big city. They came to the Tri-Cities and placed an advertisement in Craig’s List for a place to live. The place to live offer was not safe and sanitary for their baby. They came up with a new idea. They would advertise for a surrogate grandmother. They hope to find a kindly person who would share their family with them and guide them on fitting into the community. They realized being without a functioning family most of their lives that they needed family. Foster children need family whether or not they are biological family.
Limitations of Foster Families
Foster families are supposed to be caring people who provide a safe place for a child to live until they come of age. The assumption remains that individuals build nuclear families after adulthood and function independently. This has never really been the nature of the United States. For many centuries extended families live together or nearby and provide assistance in housing, childcare, and resource sharing. Even when the nuclear families of the fifties developed, the telephone existed and families could mentor by telephone. Since the relationship developed by government influence and support after adulthood the relationship might end.at eighteen years of age.
Frequently, children move from many families in their period of foster care and the biological families frequently remain involved with the children. The biological family members probably still remain unable to provide the support necessary.
The mentoring does not necessarily need to be with individuals but rather through organizations. Maybe forming an organization similar to a union of past foster children to help mentor each other would be a good idea. Foster children as adults would be a very large extended family
Due to nee, mentoring programs of adults from foster care needs examination as a means to help mend families in the community.