Many people believe that children have to attend public school to learn how to be social. They feel that surrounding a child with other kids for several hours each day will teach him how to be a part of society. Children who are home schooled are often more social than public schooled children in many ways.
Children in public schools are subjected to peer pressure in ways that home schooled children are not. Peer pressure has a way of turning children who would otherwise make great choices into those that do things to please others. The parents and teachers are not always around to guide the child to make good choices. This leaves the responsibility up to other children.
A child who is learning at home is still subject to peer pressure but to a lesser degree. She is with her parents and family more than she is with her friends, which gives the parents more influence. She can be guided when they see poor decisions being made, helping her learn how to make decisions on her own. Parents also have more control over who the friends are, making it easier to choose good influences in the child’s life.
One of the biggest issues in public school that molds a child’s social perspectives is bullying. When children see someone bullying others because he doesn’t like what someone is wearing, they are more prone to join in. Strength in numbers allows them to behave poorly, inflicting physical or emotional pain on the victim. A child who is constantly being bullied often retreats from society, becoming fearful of who to trust. This can drastically affect a person’s ability to socialize as an adult. Children who are being home educated are free from the aspect of bullying.
Children who are learning at home may encounter bullying situations when playing with the neighborhood children but it’s for shorter periods of time with the parents close at hand to help monitor the situation. Often, the victim can be taught how to avoid the situations or try to make them better, but only if a caring adult is there to observe it the situation.
When a child doesn’t have to deal with bullying or negative peer pressure on a regular basis, his self-esteem increases. Kids in a public school often tear each other down, picking on each other for every wrong answer, what they wear, how they talk or what they look like. None of these things are an issue at home. While siblings may pick on each other, it’s on a smaller scale. This kind of exposure is necessary to learn how to handle negative situations, but the child does not need to be immersed in negativity to learn.
Being in an environment where the child feels loved and able to be himself helps give him the confidence he needs to succeed. When a child feels good about himself, he’s going to project that onto others. He will be more willing to speak to people, engage in conversation and be a support friend to others.
Society is based on people of different ages, colors, races and backgrounds. Some people have special needs while others seem to be able to do anything. Home schooled children become more involved with the world around them. They aren’t locked in a classroom with only children of the same age. Their main source of influence isn’t children who laugh at a child who is in a wheelchair or yell racial slurs at someone of a different color. They run errands with their parents or volunteer their services.
These things place them with people of all ages and walks of life, helping them learn to properly socialize. With homeschooling, the parents are available all the time to teach the child the difference between good social skills and bad. This helps the child grow to be a good member of society as an adult.