In most cases, students who spend too much college time having fun and partying will not get good grades. The fun times may easily become their main purpose for attending college, and gradually academic activities take second place or disappear entirely. That’s why some newspapers publish annual listings of colleges that are dubbed party schools, where social activities are much more important than studies.
Of course, when a person is 19 or 20 years old, often away from home for the first time and with hormones raging, the temptations are great. And to some extent, it ‘s only natural to give in to them. As old-time movie star Mae West once said: You’re only young once, and if you do it right, that should be enough!
Part of growing up and learning about the world, along with college studies, is getting one self educated in the social aspects of life. A student can’t do it curled up with Shakespeare in a dorm room corner every night. Students should set aside some time to have fun and party, and maybe once in awhile curl up with someone other than Shakespeare, but do it without neglecting studies.
The worst thing a student can do, as parents always warn, is to get involved with the so-called wrong crowd. These are usually the party animals on campus, and are always there to lure young, impressionable students into their self-indulgent lifestyles of alleged fun and games.
They’ll be more than willing to introduce converts to the glories of all-night beer and booze parties, drugs and nightly visits to the town’s most notorious bars. Unfortunately, on some campuses, fraternity and sorority houses could be the most guilty of condoning this excessive behavior. However, just because the temptations are there doesn’t mean they should take over the student’s entire life.
The best, and maybe the most natural way to do balance fun with studies, is to latch on to a steady partner. It should be another student whose interests, ambitions and grades are at least as high as yours. The relationship can be anywhere from platonic study buddy to the love of your life, or something in between.
The most important aspect is that your campus partner is determined to earn good grades, a college degree and excellent prospects for a career. And expects you to do exactly the same, and for you to continually monitor and look out for each other’s welfare.
Once that mutually-cooperative agreement is established in the relationship, some fun and parties may be added sensibly to the students’ schedules to balance the serious times necessary for classroom, research and study. Off-campus activities could be enjoyable diversions, such as dining out, sports, concerts, parties and weekend get-aways. Other, more socially-conscious activities, could be volunteering together with on-campus or government agencies, working with school kids and serving as aides in hospitals or senior centers.
Of course, college should certainly not be all books and study. An intelligent schedule of fun and partying can offer a pleasant and productive balance for that very important time of a young person’s life and beyond.