You’re back with the folks, living at home again after some time on your own. It may be following Army service, or you’re broke after losing your job, or just home a temporary month or two between college semesters. Whatever the reason, how do you readjust to the old routine without driving you and everyone else in the house up the wall? Take heed to some hints.
1. Follow the rules your parents set. You may be all grown up now, but this is not your house and you must fit in with their routines and expectations. There’s no longer the strict curfew you had to obey in your earlier teen years, but you should come and go quietly, and keep it within reasonable hours.
2. Be patient with parents and everyone else living in their house. If bathrooms are for sharing, consider others by not lingering and messing up with your personal gear.
3. Cigarettes and booze may have been part of your lifestyle before you moved back home. However, if your parents don’t want them in the house, do your indulging and socializing elsewhere with friends or at the local pub. If noisy gathering of friends in the house disturbs your parents, don’t invite them in.
4. Your parents are no longer required to prepare and serve you three meals a day. If you’re fortunate, they’ll offer some, but otherwise do for yourself. Don’t leave dirty dishes around, and clean up any mess you make in the kitchen or anywhere else in the house.
5. You’re responsible for your clothing, including washing, ironing and hanging neatly in closets. Don’t leave unwashed underwear, stockings, socks, shirts or other personal items strewn around the floor. Keep everything in a laundry bag until you can wash them
6. lower noise level
7. When you were on your own, you may have enjoyed rock music at noise level of the exhaust of a jet engine. If you must do it when back home, always wear earphones. The same rule goes for watching and listening to TV in the living room.
8. As you attempt to fit in again at home, you’re sure to have some gripes. Instead of arguing or enduring endless parent complaints, sit down with them regularly and discuss the problems quietly and respectfully.
9. Finally, you could get used to living home again rent-free and enjoying all the other benefits. However, unless it’s just a temporary situation until you get your college degree or find that new job, spread your wings as soon as possible. Your parents have worked a lifetime for you, and deserve to enjoy their empty nest without you.