Teacher tips: How to best learn to develop relationships with students

Many parents do not realize how pivotal their stance is when encouraging their children in their approach to education. Teachers are able to make parents more aware of methods to foster better relationships between a student and a teacher. The end result of this is that the child can relate better to the teaching environment, and adapt to teacher style. The role models children have within their lives can often seem conflicting. Parents, on the one hand, see their children in the home environment while teachers see them in the parallel culture of the classroom. It is vital that parents are aware of the differences, and that teachers create opportunities to help the parent reinforce positive interaction between the student and the teacher.

Differences of opinion

Often parents may have opinions which differ from that of a teacher. By voicing these opinions and backing up a student against the approach of the teacher, a parent reinforces an unhealthy relationship between the teacher and student.

Of course there will be differences of opinion, though fostering a more flexible approach and arguing the merits of why a teacher approaches a subject in a certain manner is healthier.

If a parent disagrees with a teacher’s methods, it is wise for the parent to discuss this in private with the teacher, and to use the knowledge gained during such meetings to help the child to understand the teaching approach. Often simple misunderstandings which represent hurdles to learning can be overcome by discussion and explanation.

Reinforcing reasoning skills

Often a student feels that they hate a teacher. It may not actually be the teacher themselves that they hate. A parent who discusses the reasons with their child can then establish a rapport with the teacher to find out if the approach can be adapted to help the child.

Often what teachers do not know harms the harmony between a student and teacher, whereas knowledge from a parent can help a teacher to overcome obstacles with students who are experiencing difficulties with their teaching methods.

The parent is then able to discuss with the student how to address problems, and use reason and logic to discuss with a teacher any problems that they have. This reinforcement of reasoning skills helps the child throughout their lives and makes them much more open to alternative ways of thinking.

Discussing issues with the teacher before making judgements

Issues discussed with a teacher can turn from being issues to becoming opportunities. Parents who interact with a teacher can glean so much information about the interaction between their child and the teacher. It is every bit as unhealthy for a parent to take the teacher’s side and put pressure on their child, as it is to judge a teacher and take sides with the child against the teacher.

By fostering a more healthy relationship with the teacher, discussions can take place with the child to reinforce values, rather than putting pressure onto the child, which reinforces a bad relationship between the teacher and student.

Teaching children to negotiate

A child who buries their head in the sand because they don’t like a subject is a teacher’s worst nightmare. A teacher wants to impart information. If their methods are ineffective, it may be that the child can negotiate and find ways which work better. Teachers are not closed to new ideas, and if this achieves more effective teaching methods, should allow children to negotiate. A parent who explains to a child that they can have a voice and can suggest ways forward when they feel stuck is a parent who is responsible.

Negotiation throughout life is vital. It is this negotiation which builds trust. If a child shows apathy towards certain subjects and has ideas as to how a teacher can help them by different explanation, the child should be heard. Teachers want to improve their methods, and a parent who reinforces the idea that children can work hand in hand with teachers to produce better results is working towards student-teacher harmony.

Teaching children behavioral skills

A child starts to learn how to behave in the home environment. Parents who teach their children the appropriate way to behave in school reinforce values which help the relationship between student and teacher. Inappropriate behavior within the classroom disrupts the education of all of the children within a class. Instead of simply admonishing behavior of an anti social nature, a parent can teach a child what the consequences of that behavior are. Often when a child sees the impact of that behavior on others, they realize that their inappropriate behavior doesn’t just target the teacher. It actually acts as a disservice to other children.

To help foster a healthy and productive relationship between teacher and student, there is much that parents can do to reinforce educational values without resorting to scolding the child. Scolding a child actually reinforces negativity towards the teacher. They feel the teacher is the reason why they are being scolded, rather than this just being as a result of their own behavior. This in turn builds up resentment towards educators.

By teaching a child that the teacher is an ally rather than an authoritative figure and that the teacher is there to reinforce and strengthen the child’s chances in life is a wiser way to go. The results of parent reinforcement of teacher student relationships helps everyone and the end result is better education, improved communication and reinforcement of student life skills.