How to build a good relationship with your child’s teacher
All relationships require work. They don’t just happen. This includes relationships with your parents, your kids, neighbors, friends, spouse, coworkers, and your family. A child’s teacher is a very important adult in their life, and that is why it is imperative that parents establish and develop a good relationship with her. There’s a number of ways parents can do this.
MEET THE TEACHER
Some schools have a “meet the teacher” day which might be the day before the actual first day of school. Make it a point to attend this function with your child so that you can not only meet the teacher, but also help make the first day of school not so scary. Your child can take a quick tour of the classroom and you can also let the teacher know of any special instructions or situations. Be sure you don’t stay too long, though, since the teacher needs to interact with all the other parents as well and has more than likely not finished setting up her classroom.
PROVIDE IMPORTANT INFORMATION
Make sure that you give your child’s teacher any relevant information such as how your child goes home, if there’s any other siblings at the school, who can pick her up after school or in case of illness, your current phone numbers including your home, cell and work numbers, e-mail address and any special circumstances that may affect your child such as health issues or family conflicts. Again, keep it simple and don’t provide a novel’s worth of information.
This is such an obvious thing and yet there are many parents who openly disrespect their child’s teacher even in front of the child! If you don’t respect the teacher, your child won’t either. Respect for others is such an important thing for young children to learn and parents need to be their primary examples.
ATTEND ALL FUNCTIONS
Teachers know which parents attend school functions and appreciate those who take the time to do so. Everyone is busy, yet there is nothing more important than plugging into your child’s world at school. This means attending parent conferences, PTA meetings, performances, and special events. Your child will notice also by the way.
OFFER TO HELP
It is understandable that some parents may not be able to volunteer at school as much as others for whatever reason. However, every parent has something to offer. It could be as simple as offering to donate cookies for the Halloween party, offering to cut out laminated items at home, or making booklets from copier paper. If you have time to actually go to the school, you can offer to make copies, laminate, cut, or even read with students.
HELP YOUR CHILD BE RESPONSIBLE
Teachers really love it when they know that parents are supportive. You can show this by helping your child be responsible. Make sure he does his homework every night, takes care of the books borrowed from school, has consequences at home when behavior at school is not good, and shows up for school on time everyday.
Building a healthy relationship with your child’s teacher is not only important for you and the teacher; it is immensely important to your child. It will make him feel like school is a safe place to be, that his teacher cares, and that school is something to be taken seriously. Your child will see his teacher through your eyes, so make sure that what you are looking at is positive and healthy for your child and for your relationship with his teacher.