What to do when your Child is Scared of School

If your child is afraid of school the important thing is to find out what is causing the fear. Is this a kindergartner who has no idea of what to expect? Was your child fine one day and then all of a sudden because fearful? Is your child starting a new school in a new town without friends? Did your child’s friends split in middle school and now yours has to begin high school without long time friends at their side? There are many reasons that could bring on the fears so it is necessary to listen to what your child has to say. If you simply tell your child there is nothing to fear without listening to the child they will learn that you do not really care about how they are feeling you simply want them to go to school.

If you are patient and accepting of your child and really listen to what is causing the fear you will be able to help them face the fear head on and return to school. If you minimize the fear or state that it is ridiculous to feel that way your child is going to shut down and stop sharing true feelings with you. Do not over react when your child tells you what is causing the fear. Step back from the situation as if this child belongs to someone else and help them come up with a solution to their own problem.

It is very possible that their fear is legitimate. There may be a bully in school who has chosen them as their latest victim. If this is the case contact the school and find out what plan they have in place for this situation. Many schools are very equipped at handling this problem and can give you ideas on how to deal with it. What ever the reason seek assistance from your child’s school counselor and help them feel secure about their relationship with you. Let them know you are there for them to help them through this very tough time. If you acknowledge to them that they are entitled to feel how they feel it will be easier to come up with a solution to help change how they feel about school. Once they feel empowered about the situation it will be easier for them to face their fears head on especially if they know help is nearby.