Can you picture your 13 year old daughter coming home from a friend’s house telling you that she just lost her virginity? Can you imagine the rage that would go through your entire body when you find out that the school she attends encouraged it and practically told her to go have sex? No parent in their right mind would want to hear that and I could only imagine the father’s rage when he heard that from his daughter.
School’s have no business whatsoever to encourage and promote sexual relations in teenagers. In fact, I don’t think parents should encourage and promote it either. They are teenagers. Sure, teens are going to have sex regardless of what their parent says. That is their choice to make on their own and nobody else’s. All we can do, as parents and educators, is inform them of the risks, possible dangers, possible consequences and everything else that pertains to the results in sex. I don’t believe that parents and educators should make sex out to be a bad thing, but surely you wouldn’t find it right to say “sure, honey, you’re a teenager now, have all the sex you want!” That is flat out wrong and immoral.
Educators and parents should instill the morals into their children that while sex may be a great thing, it is best to wait until you are in a long term monogamous relationship or marriage.
“To raise a person in mind and not in morals is to raise a menace to society.” – Theodore Roosevelt
Sex can result in pregnancy and STD’s. We need to inform our children of these dangers and let them know that it can happen to them regardless of what they may think. An estimated 1,000,000 teenage girls get pregnant each year in the United States alone. Approximately 95% were unintended and a third end in abortion. Surveys also say that approximately 1 in 5 teenagers will have to be treated for an STD/STI by the time they are 20 years old.
The only thing that is 100% to prevent pregnancy is abstinence and full hysterectomies. A doctor will not perform a full hysterectomy on a teenage girl unless there are serious health conditions that warrant one. Birth control fails, quite frequently, and nothing prevents STD’s/STI’s except abstinence.
The only thing that a parent can really do is let their child know that they can go to them and they need to be supportive. No parent wants to think of their teenage daughter or son having sex, but it does happen, and it will happen whether we approve of it or not. Educate your children to the best of your ability, even if that means reading a book or two, and help provide birth control and condoms if needed.
As far as educators/schools go, they should only educate about the dangers and possibilities of consequences that come from sex. They should not encourage it in any way, shape, or form.