Getting teenagers to do anything is almost impossible. Sometimes, parents and teenagers will never see eye to eye and its common to run into lots of conflicts. The teenage years usually are the most stressful years of a parent’s life. While teenagers say they’re adults but then act like children, it’s not they’re fault. The teenage mind is unpredictable and everything you say not to do, they do. Teenagers can be very cunning but you can’t help but love them. Understanding a teenage mind is difficult because during the teenage years, the frontal lobe of the brain is still in the process of developing. The frontal lobe is the part of the brain that helps one’s understanding, reasoning, organizing and planning. Since their brains are still developing, they take more risks and you can’t expect them to think like an adult. Keep in mind that one day they will thank you for encouraging them and they will agree with your reasons for why you wouldn’t let your teenage daughter go that crazy party on Saturday night or why you woke you’re teenage son up every day for school to make sure he gets a good education. Remember the encouragement you give them will go rewarded and help them grow into adulthood.
One of the most difficult things to do is get your son or daughter to study for an exam. You can’t force someone to study but you can to the next best thing, which is encouragement, you can encourage your teenagers to study for an exam with many techniques. Since teenagers aren’t like children, it’s a little harder to think of ideas and techniques that will encourage them. At this moment in time, if it isn’t hip or cool, a teenager won’t be interested. And god forbid, you try to compete with their cellphones. Your voice will be drowned out by the vibrating and beeping. So how exactly do you encourage a teenager to study for an exam?
The secret is you only have to encourage your teenager to study once, and after they begin seeing good grades, they’ll want to study more. As a proven fact, most students who do well in class and get good grades are very proud and want to do better. The worse a student does and the more failing grades he or she receives, the more that student becomes frustrated and wants to drop out of school.
The art of encouragement begins with the reward. Remember it’s not a bribe but a reward. Everyone deserves something a little extra when they do a good job. Most people will think to encourage a teenager to study lies with if they have all the materials but that’s not true because anyone whose dealt with a teenager will know, the students will have the textbook but if they also have a playstation, the textbook will grow dust as they cram pizza in their mouths and focus on the video games. So, instead of blaming them for their actions just realize they’re lacking motivation. To encourage teenagers to study for exam, offer them a prize they can’t refuse. For an example, tell your teenage daughter, if she does well on the exam, you allow her to see boyfriend on Friday.
When approaching the teenager, never have a demanding or angry tone no matter how angry you are. If you yell at them, it makes them mad even if they’re wrong but make sure your tone is assertive, so they’ll know that you’re serious. Also, don’t give opportunities that will make you feel uncomfortable; always maintain your important rules, meaning don’t reward them a reward that breaks their curfew, because that is putting you both at danger.
Be strict about the reward. Don’t give in like you know you want to by giving them the reward even if they fail the exam because that will encourage bad behavior. They will not learn from your actions and they may lose the urge to do well, so grant the reward strictly. The most common reward is money for grades but it’s not always financially possible to do so and don’t feel obligated to. Simple inexpensive rewards are just as good just as good. For inexpensive rewards, either take away something important like a playstation or block certain websites on their computers and don’t allow access until they pass the exam.
The reward to yourself will be your teenagers doing well in school. It’s one of the greatest rewards and you’ll be proud of them. Don’t feel bad that you’ll have to encourage your teenager to study because not every student enjoys school. Also always help them when they ask you questions about the material. Quiz them with homemade flash cards, try to prevent frustration but mainly be involved with your teenager’s studying because they can be easily distracted by other things. The help will encourage the teenager along with the reward. In the end, they’ll be thanking you for helping them create a brighter better future by passing their exams.