Reasons why Children become Bullies

Bullying has been a problem for decades to centuries. There is some form of bullying virtually anywhere you go. You can find bullying in college, the workplace, a martial arts school (usually those are illegitimate schools), the military, a social gathering or even at school itself.

School bullying can lead to bullying in the adult life. Before there was easy access to the Internet and digital devices that can connect to the Internet, child bullying was usually confined to a school or the playground. Now, since the dawn of social media (Twitter, Facebook, MySpace, YouTube, etc.), bullying has managed to break the containment of school and reach cyberspace. This gave birth to “cyber-bullying.”

Cyber-bullying originally reached the headlines with the suicide of Phoebe Prince, who went to school in Massachusetts. She immigrated to the United States from Ireland. The students involved in the bullying have been charged by the courts. One student, Sharon Velasquez, was sentenced to probation until her 18th birthday. Another teen, Flannery Mullins, was sentenced to probation until his 19th birthday.

What causes children to take up bullying?

Unfortunately, the answer is this: The causes are near infinite. There is no absolute one reason why kids bully other kids. With digital technology and social media, kids can get away with bullying to an extent until the intended victims decide to take their own lives. The parents of the bullies may not even know what is going on.

The website called “Bullying Statistics” lists umbrella reasons that children take to bullying. The most common cause is usually the home situation. “Traditional” bullies are usually caused by two reasons. The first reason is the home life. A bully could be a victim of bullying from a parent or a sibling-that happens an awful lot. The second reason, which can be attributed to the home life, would be parenting. Are they abusive, too lax or something else? If parents did not learn to put their foot down and say “no,” then that child could become a bully.

These are some of the other reasons children bully other children:

A growing cause of bullying would be social issues. Back in 2001, during the 9/11 attacks, anti-Arab and anti-Muslim sentiment grew at an exponential rate. Depending on where you go to school, if you are an Arab and/or a Muslim, you could find yourself getting bullied by other students harboring those sentiments.

You could find yourself bullied because you are of a different religion than the rest of your peers at school. You could be Jewish and get bullied at a school where your peers are mostly Muslim. You could be Muslim and find yourself being bullied and persecuted at a school where your peers are mostly Jewish and/or Christian. You could be Buddhist and find yourself being bullied at a school where the students are mainly Christian, and so forth.

Boston Children’s Hospital lists four main causes. The first is the need to dominate others, the second is excessive impulsiveness, the third is not being able to handle negative emotions and the fourth is not being able to tolerate people who are different from you.

The third and fourth reasons strongly align with social bullying. You could be bullied because you come from a different country, are transgendered, are gay are of a different religious faith, etc.

The third reason could deal with infidelity, jealousy or something else.

A bully, let alone cyber-bully, can go after a victim because s/he was fooling around with that person’s significant other. If the victim is a male, then the guy could get constantly beaten by the bully and his friends, for example. If the victim is female, then students would use bully tactics such as calling her words like “slut,” “skank,” etc.

To further examine that third reason, one could be jealous of another person’s achievement. For example, if a student got famous, bullying could come from other students who are jealous. Still, that is bullying.

You have those four causes listed by Boston’s Children Hospital, but they can be split up into other potential causes of bullying. There is really no single, absolute cause for bullying; instead, it is usually a combination of other causes.