Bullies come in all shapes and sizes. Although we like to think of this as a childhood issue, many adults are the victims of bullies. Bullying can be detrimental to the emotional and physical well-being of a victim. Many victims may self-blame when they have done nothing to warrant an attack.
Bullies pick those weaker than themselves. They may look for signs of weakness, or if a bully is in a position of authority, they may use that position to effectively batter their victim. Bullies also enjoy group participation in battering a victim; they may humiliate the person in a public setting. A bully who cyberstalks the victim may cause feelings of violation even in their own home.
Bullying is an issue that transcends race, gender, religion, sexual orientation and socioeconomic status. Bullying may occur at any age and is especially traumatic for teens who are forming their identities. Teens generally have more free time and may use this to torment a victim.
There are things that can be done to assist anyone who is being victimized by a bully. The advanced technological age assists victims in recording their abuse. The first and most important step is to document the abuse. The second is to report what is happening and continue reporting what is happening. The bully is going to deny their actions. That is why documentation of the attacks by a bully is so important. A bully is, at heart, a cowardly individual with their own self-esteem issues. They operate best in a setting in which they feel comfortable and in which their victim is at a disadvantage. When a bully is taken out of that setting and is forced into a position in which their actions have been documented by either audio or video, they are on the defensive.
Audio and video proof empowers the victim and gives them a means to nonviolently fight back against bullies. Millions of people every year are the victims of bullies. Online projects such as itgetsbetter.org are invaluable resources for those victimized due to sexual orientation. Another valuable resource for victims may be found on stopcyberbullying.org. It gives victims valuable information on protecting yourself.
If you are having thoughts of suicide or are afraid of harming yourself, please call someone and get help at suicidepreventionlifeline.org. They will be happy to assist you anytime day or night.