Intimidation of any kind is deemed bullying. This type of behaviour has a major impact on both the victim and the bully. With the increasing rate of bullying nowadays, a myriad of school children are anxious and fearful that they may be signalled out for a bout of bullying. With the fear of being bullied on a child’s mind, their ability to learn suffers greatly.
No child can focus on their schooling when the fear of being harassed and perhaps physically abused is on their mind. Not surprisingly, a reduction in true engagement in learning is worldwide. When a child does not feel safe at school it is a very sad state of affairs. Besides, teachers end up spending more time on behaviour management problems rather than actually teaching.
Unfortunately, a host of people are unaware of the impact of their actions. In other words, how they speak to and treat others. But although they may not know how their actions can affect another person, their bullying is intentional. The impact of the bullying is dependent on the victim’s ability or inability to cope with the situation.
Bullies seldom give a moment’s thought to the hurt they are inflicting on others, they don’t care. Hurt is their main agenda and the more intense it is the better a bully feels. A bully will hope that one has obvious weaknesses and sensitivities that they can focus on. Something they can bully their victim about. It could be your eyesight, deafness, the fact that your parents are divorced or anything the bully sees as a weakness. Something they can ridicule you about in front of others.
In a nutshell, the victims of bullying, teachers, other students and the bullied child’s parents as well as the entire staff of the school, feel the negative effects of bullying. For the victim the effects can be very serious. In fact, bullying has a serious effect on educational retention as well as further education. In many cases a bullied student will drop out of school and forfeit college and a good career out of fear.
Bullying also leaves in its wake, serious emotional scars and consequences. Teenage suicide is on the increase and many of these are said to be the result of consistent bullying. 50% of school children surveyed in Australia said that they have given serious thought to committing suicide because of being bullied. 20% of the same children who were interviewed admitted that they had actually attempted suicide. Some of these children had actually attempted suicide more than once.
The non-bullied group of children who contemplated suicide was 0.07 and those who actually attempted suicide from the non-bullied group were 0.03%. In addition, students who are bullied are said to be three times more likely to suffer from depression, anxiety, low self-esteem and lack of confidence. Therefore it is not surprizing to learn that 40% of bullied students reported a major decline in their self-esteem. A host of bullied children said that after a bout of bullying, the even questioned their self-worth.
Victims of bullying often ostracize themselves as a type of self-protection. Therefore, they become introverts and find it extremely difficult to make friends when they do attempt to do so. They deem themselves somewhat different to their peers because they know they have been signalled out for a reason. At times the victim even feels as if they are to blame for the bullying. They sometimes also feel that if they befriend someone, that person could turn out to be a bully as well.
Sadly, the ones who are bullied as children often end up being bullied as adults unless something is done about the childhood bullying. When nothing is done and the bullying is not taken seriously, it basically sets a pattern for adulthood. Thus and adult could become everyone’s whipping post because they appear to be so defenceless.
Bullying also leads to an increase in absenteeism. Those who are bullied are not eager to attend school because they do not feel safe in that particular environment. Bully is a form of dominance and those who are exposed to frequent dominance have trouble making their own decisions after a while. They become too used to jumping through hoops in hope of securing their personal safety.
Unfortunately, these people then have trouble with personal development. They have no skills in devising ways and means of coping when things don’t go according to plans. Coping skills are limited and this refers to problem solving, decision making, taking the initiative and dealing with negativity in life. Bullying has one very hesitant to trust others at times and this could lead to a person being very lonely and isolating themselves from others. Their communication skills weaken and their confidence level takes a gigantic nose dive.
Young people who are subjected to too much bullying often end up feeling very insecure, short of patience, filled with anxiety and lacking empathy for others because they feel someone should have come to their rescue sooner. Long term relationships of any type are almost non-existent. Bullies are usually in and out of relationships right throughout their lives.
So how does bullying impact (effect) the actual bully?
If a bully’s behaviour is not addressed, he/she is very likely to become a criminal. It is said that a bully who is never corrected for bullying as a child, is four times more likely to become a repeat offender of crime as an adult. The law of averages shows that they will have at least one criminal conviction.Bullying gives one a false sense of security as well as a sense of power.
Therefore, bullies often become more aggressive because they are feeding off this. This leads to adults who inflict hurt on other such as through domestic violence. Thus, long-term relationships are seldom successful. Bullies seldom have a successful career as well, because they have problems interacting with others civilly.
No one trusts a bully because he/she can turn on a penny. Therefore they will never be respected or given a responsible role in the workplace unless the establishment is corrupt. Bullies bicker amongst themselves and it becomes a power struggle; this leads to a very lonely life as one very rarely has friends for a lifetime when they are a bully.
Some bullies have had an aggressive childhood; they may have been abused by their bullying parents. It’s a vicious cycle which leads to even more viciousness. Bullies are often educated in brutality by their very own parents. The parents, who won’t listen to the teachers and other staff members, the adult who yells out to other drivers, are all bullying in a sense. Children will imitate this. Unfortunately, bullies seldom has low-self-esteem; they are usually very popular and quite confident.
In summing up, the impact of bullying behaviour is negative in every sense of the word.