We definitely need discipline at school, but are suspensions from school appropriate? There are different types of suspension it doesn’t have to mean that the child is removed from the school. The child can be removed from the immediate group, or from the classroom without being removed from school.
There are children in our school systems that have no idea how to behave. They take no responsibility for their actions and their parent’s attack the teachers when they are confronted with the issues created by their child. The following are some examples of elementary school children who do not behave and the responses their parent’s had when presented with the teachers issues.
In the first two semesters of school this particular child missed 8 days of school and was 10-15 minutes late 35 times. When the child was in class he was falling asleep and unable to concentrate. When asked, “What time did you get to bed last night?” The child typically said, “10:00”.
The teacher frequently cleaned out the child’s desk and copied assignments that the student has misplaced. Every week the child was given a list of missing assignments and his grade.
There were several conferences with the student and his parents. One outcome was that the parents would get the child to school on time (which is still an issue) and that when the parents picked the child up from school the parent (mom/dad) would go through the students desk at least twice a week to look for important papers (happened once or twice so far).
The planner was used daily to communicate with parents. They only needed to look at the planner to see what assignments the student did that day and what was missing. For this student important papers were stapled to the planner.
When the parents found out that the student was missing several assignments they told the teacher it was her responsibility to get that student caught up. Ok, and what responsibility do the parent’s have? The work that is missing is math homework. The math homework is typically 4-8 problems.
This child was very self centered and would openly defy what ever the teacher’s asked him to do. He was disruptive in class and usually required several minutes a day of the teachers’ time because of the interruptions. Several times a day she would have to take the child into the hall to discuss appropriate behavior. The parent’s rarely answer their phone or the number is disconnected. When asked to come to a conference at school they said they would be there and then didn’t show up. The principal would not suspend this child because he would be home alone. He has been sent to the office for in school suspension on several occasions.
I could go on and on with specific examples, but I will just summarize them into the fact that there are at least 5-6 students in each class of 25 students who have behavior issues of some kind. As the years go by the number of students who have behavior issues increase. I am not talking about students with special needs either.
If there is no cooperation between teacher, parent, and child, learning does not take place. Each person has to be responsible for his or her contribution. There are so many children out there that are raising themselves that develop their values and norms by watching cartoons and playing video games.
If you’re a parent that is concerned about your child’s education take responsibility. Teach your children a good work ethic. Help them do their homework. Visit his/her school. Get to know the teacher and principal. Be familiar with the rules. Suspension for any child should not be the norm, but only done in rare cases.