Ever since my childhood in the 1980s, I can remember hearing adults discuss the role of popular music in promoting violent and deviant behavior. Now, since the millennium, everyone has been kicking around the subject of bully behavior as though it is a new problem facing our youth. Honestly, most of the kids that are bullied look for an escape of any kind to deal with being picked on. We should all be much more worried about children turning to drugs than freaking out over what kind of music they are listening to. As a kid, music saved my emotional stability, my sanity, and probably my life on more than one occasion.
Popular music has always been a scapegoat for adults who simply wanted to pass the buck, when their responsibility to the kids falls short. Parents, teachers, and the majority of authority figures simply don’t want to have the finger pointed in their direction when Johnny turns rotten. As a mother myself, I have to face the fact that it can be frustrating that my daughter seems to value her friends goofy opinions more than mine, sometimes. Yet, I have the final word when it comes to what she is allowed to do, and how she conducts herself in the world. Sure, it would be easier to blame Marilyn Manson when she does something that I don’t like, but I wouldn’t be doing my job!
If we continue to blame violent behavior and actions on music, then we will miss the true root causes for it. Has it ever occurred to anyone that many kids learn to become bullies because they themselves have been the victim of such a cowardly act. And the majority of the time we don’t want to ask the fundamental question, who are they really learning this behavior from? Maybe, Daddy is a bully to Mommy, the child, his siblings, and sometimes even to others in everyday life. Most people don’t think about the consequences when they scream at, spank, and generally belittle their kids, or to even that doing these things in front of their children leaves a lasting impression. The world is a complicated enough place without making up a bunch of nonsense. To point the finger where it most certainly doesn’t belong, instead of taking that good, hard look in the mirror,is foolish and dangerous. Maybe that is because, some of us wouldn’t like what we see all that much.
Negative behaviors, just like positive ones are learned by our off-spring, Our precious little darlings mimic us every chance they get from a very young age. Any fool can blame someone else for what goes wrong, after the fact. Its about time that we start to explore this important issue with an honest approach, so maybe, if we’re real lucky, our kids can enjoy more of the here and now, and not look so hard for a place to hide. I can only hope in my lifetime, that wedgies become a distant and unpleasant memory.